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The rants and ravings of a not so interesting, grossly optimistic Canadian lady teenager who has delusions of her popularity and relevance, as seen by her usage of the third person. My name is Eva and I like pretty pictures and hate heinous fuckery one of those radical feminists I enjoy things like
Music, Art, New York City, Stars, Snow, Summertime, Birds, Boats, The Sea, St. Patrick's Day, Getting up to shenagins, London, Writing, Reading, Being warm, Baby animals, Fashion, Boston and lots more.
Boys are told from a young age that whatever they do will be excused under the “boys will be boys” mantra, and that “boys will be boys” mentality leads to what I call the “boiling frog” problem of women’s sexual boundaries. I call it that because if you put a frog into a pot of boiling water, it will jump right out, but if you put a frog into a pot of room-temperature water and slowly heat it to a boil, the frog will acclimate as it heats and never jump out, eventually boiling to death. Similarly, when we learn as young girls to tolerate “low-level” boundary violations like the ones we often are forced to suffer in silence at school, at home and on the street – bra-snapping, boob-grabbing, ass pinching, catcalling, dick flashing “all in good fun” relentless violations that adults and authorities routinely ignore – it makes it harder for us to notice when even greater boundaries are being violated, eventually leading to the reality that many women who are raped just freeze and fall silent, because that’s what they’ve been taught to do over and over since day one. You tell me what’s more infantilizing: repeatedly letting boys (and grown men) off the hook for their behavior because “boys will be boys” and we can’t ever expect any differently, or creating a consent standard in which all partners take active responsibility for their partner’s safety, and which acknowledges the truly diseased sexual culture we’re soaking in every day.
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Posted on 28th January 2012
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